Getting Married Young is Lovely! & Here's Why
Written by: Ana Glaze, co-host and bad-joke-teller of “That Catholic Couple”, a Youtube Channel she created with her husband, Daniel, where they show that being Catholic is really fun and try to break down stereotypes about the faith. Aside from that, she is the Director of Development for Lily Michele Inc. (their soon-to-be 1 year old daughter) and CEO of Casa Glaze Enterprises (because stay-at-home mommies can be CEO’s and Directors too).
Why did I get married so young? To be very honest, I’m pretty sure I ask myself this same question at least two or three times a week when I do laundry for 3 people or deal with a fussy baby at 2am. “Why DID I get married so young?” Thoughts of traveling the world, having time to myself, making my own decisions, and living a luxurious, successful life all seem to creep into my thoughts pretty frequently. I mean, I went to college, I have a Communication degree for goodness sake, I am above the “status quo”! So why did I choose this life?
Growing up, I always dreamed of being a wife and a mother one day. But somewhere in my late teens and college years, that dream broke. My own parents’ marriage started drifting apart and it finally ended my sophomore year of college. And I guess in the midst of all of that, I slowly started to think, “Maybe marriage IS a waste of time”. So I worked on my degree, lived life to the fullest, and focused on making sure my goals in life were spectacular. I wanted to do something that impacted the world all while looking fabulous in heels (my own personal mantra)!
But for some reason this lifestyle didn’t fulfill me. It didn’t push me past my comfort zone. If anything, it kept me comfortable. Yes, I worked hard (and yes, the heels themselves were FAR from comfortable) but I was so focused on myself that it became very easy to just stay there and not think of anyone else. I only thought of MY goals, MY dreams, MY plans, MY aspirations. It was never about others, it was never challenging and it was never about sacrifice. I ended up becoming bored with my selfish mentality. I found myself asking “If I died tomorrow what would I leave behind? What would be my project for the world?”
I started to reconsider marriage and motherhood and how maybe it wasn’t such a waste of my time after all. Yes, I could lead a marvelous career and create a business empire that could change the world, but I also found that raising humans to be beacons of hope who love God and who are compassionate, kind people could have just as much of an impact. Yes, I could make tons of money off of my brilliant ideas (or at least I think they’re brilliant) and share that wealth with the world, but I can also share the immense love and honor I have for my spouse and be just as successful -- especially because it isn’t always the norm in marriages anymore. Yes, cleaning up after other people and serving everyone before myself might not sound as wonderful as a trip to Paris for the weekend, but what is even more wonderful is hearing laughter throughout our home and seeing how my family is building each other up with joy, love and devotion. Dishes in the sink might not look as great as what could be in my bank account right now (and boy, do I know it!), but the time I spend embracing my spouse or holding my daughter are far more valuable to me than anything else on this earth.
Marriage, for me, became the project that I could work on which would have a ripple effect in our world - without expecting recompense for my own merits. It’s how I would be stretched to give more of myself and never be bored by my own selfishness. It’s how I would show glory to God and allow Him to strengthen me, because I DEFINITELY need Him to give me strength most days...and not flip a friggin’ table!
I chose it 2 years ago and I still choose it every day. It’s crazy, messy, stinky, and very hard at times, but it’s also beautiful, amazing, and oh, so satisfying. I embrace it all and choose to love it all.
And I might be insane, but the diapers seem much more appealing than heels and business meetings to me now! Haha!
Stay holy, my friends.