What's it Like to Have Twins?!?! & Other Frequently Asked Questions
In this post I thought I'd answer some frequently asked questions we get. Feel free to ask us more, I'd love to share:
ARE THEY TWINS?
ARE THEY IDENTICAL? AND ARE YOU SURE?
Yes. We know this for a fact because they shared a placenta. The "type" of twins they are is referred to as "MoDi" which stands for monochorionic, diamniotic twins--meaning one placenta, two amniotic sacs. If babies share a placenta, it is a significant indicator that they are monozygotic or came from just one fertilized egg which split into two, thus identical DNA.
DO TWINS RUN IN YOUR FAMILY?
Well, kind of. My husband's cousins are twins and his grandfather had twin sisters. But all of this is beside the point. The only genetic trait that can cause twins potentially is hyper-ovulation, a condition that might bring about fraternal twins. Ours are identical, which is not something that can be passed down genetically. Rather, it's just some statistical probability. Everyone has the same odds of having identical twins. It is roughly .351%
ARE THEY NATURAL?
The polite term for this is "spontaneous". All identical twins are spontaneous, meaning no fertility medication is the cause.
DO THEY WAKE EACH OTHER UP? DO THEY MAKE EACH OTHER CRY?
Surprisingly, no. They both are very unfazed by the other baby. Their sister can poke, prod, touch and even scream in their face and they will not even wake up, or if awake, not even bat an eye. Every so often, they do bother each other but it is generally very rare.
ARE THEY ON THE SAME SCHEDULE?
Well, yes. And no. There are many things that I just let them take the lead on. For example, it doesn't matter to me if they nap at the same time. They usually do nap at the same time and it's true that I get a lot more stuff done, but if they are tired at different times one day, it just means I get a rare chance to play and snuggle each of them individually. I also allow them to eat at different times. I prepare their bottles at the same time, but if one isn't hungry I'll try again with them later while still offering the next bottle at the normal time. There are some things I am adamant about such as them sleeping at night. They go down to bed at the same time always. I also always make sure that if they are separated, they get fed near the same time.
DO THEY KNOW WHAT THE OTHER IS THINKING?
I don't know but I'd assume no, since they're really not even very self-aware at this stage of life.
WHAT ARE THEIR PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES?
Clairvaux is a wonderer and dreamer. She likes to think deeply about the world around her and figure everything out. She is usually patient. Adelaide wears her heart on her sleeve. She loves to mimic sounds and listen to music. She is quick to smile when content and quick to yell when not content.
CAN YOU/HOW DO YOU TELL THEM APART?
As their mother, they look incredibly different to me. So yes, I can tell them apart. I personally just do it by looking at them, there's no specific "tell" I have to see first to know. But others have their own "tells" they use to see the difference.
Those are all the usuals so far.